I'm a bittle lit intoxicated

Hi all,

I decided that my last couple of posts have been dismal. So here's some more cheerful stuff.

I've been married for five years to the love of my life. Yeah, he drives me crazy sometimes. He's mercurial, temperamental and a royal pain in the ass, but he's also loving, generous, and an incredible... uh... husband. He puts up with my only-child spoiled-ness, my own erratic behavior, and my interminable quest for the right balance of psychotropic medications. All the while, loving my boys as if they were his own.

My children are pains in the ass too. (Gee, a theme?) But they are sweet. loving children whose hearts are in the right place, even when their mouths and attitudes are not. They can hate each other with a fevered passion in this house, but when they leave it, they will defend each other to the point of taking punches for the other. (Mostly the twins.) As barbaric as that is, it gives me hope. Because someday when I am gone, they will only have each other.

Yes, I wish my children were "normal," but what exactly is that? Is being gay abnormal? Is being bipolar, or needing growth-hormone injections abnormal? Maybe. But those are my boys. And I have yet to figure out "my" girl, because she has yet to figure out herself. But the journey is never dull.

Is it odd that my online friends give me more support, advice, and understanding than my RL friends? Is this the wave of the future, or am I abnormal in that too?

I'm beginning to think "abnormal" is a helluva lot more interesting. :-)

Have a great Saturday night. I'm off to make another sex-on-the-beach. (It's -10 degrees here: anything-on-the-beach sounds really good.) I'll deal with the "too-many-carbs" potty issues tomorrow. (And so will everyone else. bwahahaha.) :-)

Comments

[Ezpy]

Hi Mel,

I'm sorry life is tough right now. I understand in my own way. There's *nothing* tougher than dealing with money issues. I think, at least from my own experience, this is even truer in second marriage, maybe because our different spending patterns are sort of already developed.

One idea I might suggest that could help. I had a friend who had a compulsive shopping problem (I realize that's not your issue) that she hid from her husband until the debts she'd amassed were pretty huge. In addition to her being in therapy, they also turned their finances over to a very very good accountant who put them on a budget and helped them plan for their long term expenses (buying a home, schools for children and all that). It was sort of amazing, but they ended up in really great shape after just 3 years.

What it taught me was that a good accountant can really look at expenses versus income and help families make realistic choices. And, in their case, it also kept either of them from feeling like they were the one who had to say yes or no.

I dunno, just a thought.

Hang on sweet girl. You and yours sound more than worth saving.